You Are Perfect, Yes YOU!

                      People are different. They possess different natures, different thoughts, different ways of interpreting situations, different mindsets. Some people are more social than others, some people like football more than cricket, some people prefer Play Station over XBOX, some people like hamburger more than pizza. I don't know who these hamburger dudes are and what the hell is wrong with them! Ahahaha. Just kidding. Anyways, people are different from each other. What makes them different is the way they have lead their lives or their lives have lead them. Obviously every person's life is different. People go through some situations which really affect their lives and change or construct the way they look at the world, and this phenomenon is continuous. It never stops. As you know, time and life are the best teachers in the world.

                     Now, I'm not pointing at anyone specific, but we all know that there are a lot of people who you find not so social. They hesitate. They sit alone. They become nervous easily. They can't even tell their name to a bunch of people without making a fool out of themselves. Yup! That’s me! Now, the problem doesn't end here. Society makes them a joke. What they require is help and confidence. What they get is criticism and insult. They get bullied everywhere they go. They have no one to talk to. They have no one who can comfort them. Now, a lot of people say that it's their fault that they don't have anyone to talk to because they are so unsocial. That's why I started this post with 'human nature' just to make you realize that it is, in fact, in their nature. You like FIFA, you can't help it dude. It's in your nature! Just like this, their nature prevents them from socializing. But that doesn't make them any less of a human than I am, right? Then why the hell do I think I have the right to treat them differently? They are humans. They obviously have feelings. They don't show their feelings but that doesn't mean they don't have them.

                    Now, what do you expect from a person who gets bullied everywhere he/she goes? They go into depression. Their feelings pile up into a gigantic nervous breakdown and then they go to some place where it is, and I am seriously using this word, nearly ‘impossible’ to bring them back. Now what they do? They do self harm. They starve. They start taking anti-depressants. They start taking sleeping pills because they can't take it anymore! They can't handle sleepless nights. They can't handle loneliness. They look for a solution, a shortcut, and they find it in pills, and in the long run, find themselves living miserable lives. But, why? Just because they are a little different? Now, come on!

                   Stop bullying guys. I don't believe anyone in their stable state of mind have evil in their heart. Those few words we speak just for fun can seriously damage someone's soul. Stop judging. It leads to nothing. Why do we hurt these people when we have the power to make their lives easier? Everybody loves super heroes, right? So, why not we be those heroes for a change? We have the powers, all we have to do is find them in our hearts. Passing a bad or a good comment really doesn't affect us in any way, but it can deeply affect the person we are passing that comment on.

                Now, to all those people who self harm or take pills or spend their whole night sobbing under the quilt, guys you are not different. You are unique, and this doesn't make you abnormal. Other people's opinion about you should not affect your personal life. It doesn't matter if you are a little fat or have a dark complexion or you dress a little different. You are beautiful just the way you are. Stop starving yourself because you don't deserve this. Stop cutting yourself because you are not a paper. Don't try to end your life because it is not a film, and please, please, PLEASE! Stop taking pills. You think it helps but it doesn't. In the long run, the only thing it does to you is ruin your life, and you don't want that. So be original and be proud of who you really are.

 

               What are the alternatives? Open yourself! Don't think you are a bad person and that everybody hates you. You are not and they don't! You hesitate? It's fine, it's normal. Just don't let this hesitation stop you. Share. Not with everyone, but I'm sure you guys have someone in your life who you trust and who is worth trusting. Share your problems with them. It helps, it really does! Don't listen to what people say about you. You are amazing and nothing can change that. Your parents love you, your siblings love you, and your friends love you! Sometimes they don't show their love but they really do! And this is the biggest example that you are not a bad person. You are perfectly normal. So smile a little. It looks great on you and be proud of who you are!

                 At the end, I would like to suggest all of you a book. It’s called ‘The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teenagers’, by Sean Covey. I would highly recommend this book to, not just the teens facing depression but, all of you.

                                                                                                                  The Stoodies over and out!

                                                                                                                  -Usmani